How to get over past mistakes.

Conquer those past mistakes and learn to move on. 1. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, does things wrongs, and has moments of regret. There are no perfect people out there. In that sense, you are just the same as everybody else. 2. Remind yourself that “that was then, and this is now”. You can’t turn back the clocks and change what you did, but you can be a different person in the future. 3. Allow yourself to experience and name the feelings you are struggling with (regret, guilt, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, sadness, etc.) – then make the decision to let those feelings go. In the end, it’s unhealthy to become attached to them. 4. Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. What would you do differently if you found yourself in that situation again? How can it change the person you are now (so that you feel better about yourself)? 5. Recognise that failings and mistakes are part of the growth process. It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter obstacles, challenges and failures throughout life. Don’t let that stop you from really living life. 6. Remind yourself that “it was what you did, it’s not who you are.” Don’t allow any single event or experience to define you. You are more than – so don’t let that become your identity. Don’t let it determine your destiny. 7. Give yourself the gift of a new start. Forgive yourself, let go of the past, and with confidence move on with your...

New year and a new you! – Time to stop smoking.

It always seems that the coming of a New Year means new resolutions that must be made as well. While losing a little more weight or seeing more of your extended family are good resolutions to make to help you feel better, quitting smoking is one that will actually improve your health in remarkable ways. However, actually quitting smoking will take more than just willpower. This is because smoking is more than a physical addiction, but a psychological one as well. This will mean that in order to quit you will have to marshal all the forces necessary to break the habit so you can live a healthier life. One technique that has been proven over the years to help people quit smoking is hypnosis. Once considered just for entertainment, hypnosis has helped many thousands of people quit smoking when many of them have failed in previous attempts. How hypnosis works to overcome the smoking habit The habit of smoking is more than just an addiction to nicotine; it involves the mental stimulation that smoking brings along with the psychological need and muscle memory that gets engrained into the brain. As an example, many people who try to quit smoking are often fidgeting with their fingers because they no longer have a cigarette to hold. Even chewing gum or pencils fail to break this simple muscle memory habit that is actually part of the smoking experience. However, hypnosis uses the power of suggestion to break these habits as well; creating conditions where the mind is no longer subject to the fidgeting fingers or an after dinner smoke break that...

Seasons warning.

Winter is a time that we all associated with colds and flu; and sometimes it is difficult to stay healthy during the winter months. Stress pays a major part in how resistant and susceptible we are to picking up infections and ailments so tackling stress before the cold and flu ‘season’ is upon us will help avoid days off work and lost time feeling unwell. Winter is a time that we all associated with colds and flu; and sometimes it is difficult to stay healthy during the winter months. Stress pays a major part in how resistant and susceptible we are to picking up infections and ailments so tackling stress before the cold and flu ‘season’ is upon us will help avoid days off work and lost time feeling unwell. Effective stress management techniques form part of a hypnotherapy session. They include reducing the stress hormone cortisol and so increase the efficiency of our immune systems; making healthy lifestyle choices which is difficult during dark winter months, so getting enough sleep, eating healthily and most importantly getting fresh air and exercise. Avoiding stressful situations will help and also practising stress management techniques such as physical activities, relaxation and meditation, and interacting with other people. Stress continues to be a significant problem and according to research in the UK, work related stress is responsible for major loss of productivity because of lost days sickness or absence. So if you want to stay healthy, boost your immune system, and maintain good levels of wellbeing during the winter then reduce stress levels and make sure that you maintain a healthy lifestyle.  ...
Build instant rapport with people

Build instant rapport with people

Hi All! Here is a fun little exercise for you to do on your lunch break. That will help you to be a more well rounded person with this crafty NLP technique up your sleeve! Ask yourself are you a visual (seeing), auditory (hearing) or kinaesthetic (feeling) based person. Heres a quick way for you to find out – Close your eyes and picture something that has made you very happy; whether it be a holiday, birthday or a perfect meal and go through that memory in detail. Really start to add in the little things, see if you can smell that moment, taste it etc. Now you will know what comes up more feelings, seeing things or hearing things. Now here is the fun part! create a story using another sense/mode to what you mainly use. So if you are a person who hears more try to feel more. Or if you are based on feelings try to see more. Here’s an example of all three in one quick sentence. ‘I was walking through the woods and could FEEL the crunch of leaves beneath me. I could HEAR an owl hooting and I SAW a fox run past me. The idea of this exercise is so that you understand what language you mainly use and how it affects others around you. Now you can find out what type of person your friends, family and work colleagues are and you can use this method to try to match them and build better rapport and relationships with them. Just by mirroring that language. For more info go to...
Cure insomnia with hypnosis

Cure insomnia with hypnosis

Insomnia and sleep problems tend to start in isolation but can soon develop into bad habits. If you think you won’t be able to sleep, it’s almost certain that you won’t. Hypnotherapy can help you to develop new expectations and make insomnia a thing of the past. If you try not to think of an orange bus, you’ll probably think of one. If you try to get an irritating song out of your head, you’ll probably struggle. And, of course, if you have to try to fall asleep, you’re probably already suffering from insomnia. Let’s face it, you aren’t supposed to try to fall asleep, you’re supposed to just do it. Remind your mind and body how to fall asleep naturally If you are trying to cure insomnia, you have probably been trying for a long time. Most people we see with insomnia in our clinic have tried just about everything else before resorting to hypnosis. But hypnosis is the obvious way to cure insomnia because it deals directly with the cause of the problem – lack of relaxation. Learn the facts about insomnia We all need different amounts of sleep, and depending on our individual body clocks, have preferences for when we go to sleep and wake up. We function better at different times of the day – some of us are morning people and others ‘night owls’. Listen to what your body tells you, and then try to stick to a regular sleeping routine of going to bed and getting up at roughly the same times. As far as possible, remove any external distractions which might be...

Strive to be the best

As humans, we are the most intelligent, creative and independent creatures in the world. We literally have the ability to create anything we want – anything we can imagine.   At the same time, we can find ourselves paralyzed by fear, worry and doubt.  Stuck in habitual patterns that are familiar but no longer serve us. We maintain instead of grow, moving without direction or purpose. You see, a person without direction and purpose is like a ship without a rudder. Here’s what Earl Nightingale had to say about this: “It’s estimated that about 95%(of people) can be compared to ships without rudders. Subject to every shift of wind and tide, they’re helplessly adrift. And while they fondly hope they’ll one day drift into a rich and successful port, you and I know that for every narrow harbor entrance, there are a 1,000 miles of rocky coastline. The chances against their drifting into port are 1,000 to one. But the 3% who have taken the time and exercised the discipline to decide on a destination and to chart a course sail straight and far across the deep oceans of life, reaching one port after another and accomplishing more in just a few years than the restaccomplish in a lifetime.”I am like most people, I floated around without a rudder, HOPING things would just “work out.” Then, when I was 24 years old I met a man who would become my first real mentor. He showed me how to achieve a life I had only dreamed of. This mentor helped me to discover how I could create financial freedom and start...

Stoptober campaign

Quit smoking this October with the Stoptober campaign.   So as most people know this October is Stoptober. This Stoptober, I will be offering 50% off my 2hr quit smoking cessation to help you become a non smoker for life! The reason I am backing this campaign is because tobacco is the single most preventable cause of death around the world, killing nearly 6 million people a year – 600,000 of whom are non-smokers. Just think of the damage this does, to not only the smokers body but the people around them. Furthermore think about this, what happens when you are told its terminal and you have to explain to your loved ones that you are going to die. Now I have personally seen the horrors of long term smoking first hand, with its disastrous effects! Not just to the smoker but also to the smoker’s family. It is not just the client who may have lung cancer from smoking, but the whole family who has to go through the ordeal. That is why I choose to support clients who want to give up smoking. Hypnotherapy is often used to help clients achieve the behavioural change needed to stop smoking but it’s so important the public use someone who knows what they are doing. Now think of the benefits of what you want to gain from quitting smoking. Is it financial benefits? or do you want to breathe easier? perhaps a better sex life with more energy or you just want to have clean smelling clothes. Whatever you want to gain from quitting you can! So Stoptober is a...
Eliminate Time Wasters

Eliminate Time Wasters

If you are a person under stress, then it could be because you may be doing little things that are robbing you of more time than you think. While you may not even be aware of it, by controlling the little things more effectively, you could discover that you have the time you need to live less stressed.   Here are a few things that may be eating away at your time each day: 1. Phone time – Strive to limit your phone calls to be long enough to accomplish your business. Cut out the chatter, but still be friendly. A lot of time is wasted unnecessarily on the phone. 2. Shorter lunch hours – Keep it to the time allotted. Use your lunch for other things besides eating – get in a little exercise, take a short nap, etc. 3. Surfing the Internet – if you tend to do this while you should be working, it is not helping reduce stress. Stay focused and accomplish more. 4. Checking email or answering text messages – Limit yourself to a couple of times a day. Otherwise, it consumes a lot of time. Do the most important things. 5. Waiting in line – If you have to wait, come prepared to be able to handle other things. Read a book, jot down some notes, call a friend, etc. Don’t waste that precious time. 6. Computer games (online or off‐line) – Speaks for itself. 7. An unorganized desk – A lot of time is wasted trying to find things you need. A little more organization will help reduce important time wasted while...
Handling Work‐related Stress

Handling Work‐related Stress

Stress in the workplace has mirrored that in the world with a general increase. Job stress is hurting many people who do not know how to cope with it. In some cases, people are simply taking time off from work just to be able to get some relief. Chances are very good, however, that if you are feeling the stress – so are others. The good thing is that it is possible for one person to make a difference. First, in how you can reduce your own stress, and secondly, how you may help to make the workplace more enjoyable for others, too ‐ both may be possible. Here are some tips on how to reduce your own stress in your workplace. 1. Meet with your boss and make sure you get a clear understanding of: • Your responsibilities • Your performance • Your weaknesses – things that need improving. 2. Be generous with praise. It’s contagious! 3. Separate work from the home life. 4. Turn off the electronics – work does not need to be bothering you at home. You may need to specify that you are not to be bothered after 7:00 PM, or the time of your choice. 5. Manage time well. Use your time to your advantage. Misusing it, such as taking too long for lunch breaks, or at the coffee machine, will only increase stress because you may not have enough time for necessary tasks. 6. Communicate when problems develop. 7. Avoid negative people. 8. Find another job if you must. Eventually, you may realize that some places are not going to change. They...

What exactly IS hypnotherapy??

I am asked quite often “what’s the difference between hypnosis and hypnotherapy?” Then followed normally by “so what’s the major difference between hypnotherapy and all the other psychological work? Well let me tell you; I think for starters hypnosis, is in fact,  nothing more than a tool, albeit a very specialised tool that can produce apparent miracles on occasions, and like all tools, it cannot do anything at all until somebody puts it to work. Hypnotherapy is a skill which uses the tool of hypnosis for the administration of many and various forms of psychotherapy. A good analogy is the difference between a saw and woodwork – a carpenter uses the saw to carry out the task of working with wood. But the very best of saws is useless without the craftsman to skilfully weird it. Now its worth recognising that hypnotherapy is totally different from any other form of therapeutic intervention. No drugs, no manipulation and does not rely on the client’s intellect to make it work. But the major difference is that all other forms of psychological work – counselling, psychotherapy, psychiatry and the like – are based around conscious processes of thought, and because it is conscious work can often hinder its success. However I work with something quite different. Which hypnotherapy I approach the subconscious part of the psyche, helping the clients to resolve difficulties at a level where conscious thought cannot interfere, either for good OR bad. It is precisely because of the fundamental change to the thought processes that a client will then be released from a symptom or habit so completely that...