How to get over past mistakes.

Conquer those past mistakes and learn to move on. 1. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, does things wrongs, and has moments of regret. There are no perfect people out there. In that sense, you are just the same as everybody else. 2. Remind yourself that “that was then, and this is now”. You can’t turn back the clocks and change what you did, but you can be a different person in the future. 3. Allow yourself to experience and name the feelings you are struggling with (regret, guilt, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, sadness, etc.) – then make the decision to let those feelings go. In the end, it’s unhealthy to become attached to them. 4. Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. What would you do differently if you found yourself in that situation again? How can it change the person you are now (so that you feel better about yourself)? 5. Recognise that failings and mistakes are part of the growth process. It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter obstacles, challenges and failures throughout life. Don’t let that stop you from really living life. 6. Remind yourself that “it was what you did, it’s not who you are.” Don’t allow any single event or experience to define you. You are more than – so don’t let that become your identity. Don’t let it determine your destiny. 7. Give yourself the gift of a new start. Forgive yourself, let go of the past, and with confidence move on with your...

What exactly IS hypnotherapy??

I am asked quite often “what’s the difference between hypnosis and hypnotherapy?” Then followed normally by “so what’s the major difference between hypnotherapy and all the other psychological work? Well let me tell you; I think for starters hypnosis, is in fact,  nothing more than a tool, albeit a very specialised tool that can produce apparent miracles on occasions, and like all tools, it cannot do anything at all until somebody puts it to work. Hypnotherapy is a skill which uses the tool of hypnosis for the administration of many and various forms of psychotherapy. A good analogy is the difference between a saw and woodwork – a carpenter uses the saw to carry out the task of working with wood. But the very best of saws is useless without the craftsman to skilfully weird it. Now its worth recognising that hypnotherapy is totally different from any other form of therapeutic intervention. No drugs, no manipulation and does not rely on the client’s intellect to make it work. But the major difference is that all other forms of psychological work – counselling, psychotherapy, psychiatry and the like – are based around conscious processes of thought, and because it is conscious work can often hinder its success. However I work with something quite different. Which hypnotherapy I approach the subconscious part of the psyche, helping the clients to resolve difficulties at a level where conscious thought cannot interfere, either for good OR bad. It is precisely because of the fundamental change to the thought processes that a client will then be released from a symptom or habit so completely that...